“Hillel says: Be among the students of Aaron-love peace and pursue peace, love people, and draw them close to Torah.”
Hillel told us, "Love peace and pursue peace" and then he said, "Love people" we might have thought that Hillel will first say, "Love people first," and, second, say, "Love peace." Why does he tell us, “First, love peace” and secondly, to love people? Because Hillel, in his great wisdom, reveals to us that, as much as we love people, as much as we want to love people, as much as we find joy in interpersonal relationships, we also know that interpersonal relationships are not always smooth sailing. There are ups and downs, sensitivities, and impasses and hurts along the way.
“Oseh Shalom B’mromov, Hu ya’a’she Shalom aleinu v’al kol Yisrael v'yimaru- Amen.”
He Who makes peace in the Heavens, May He make peace upon us and upon all Yisrael v'yimaru- Amen.
Instead of judging the comments of another human being, we must see beyond their words... all that should exist before us... is our desire for peace. We must feel the yearning to feel peace with this person. Instead of dissecting the words that other may speak, words that hurt us, let the words pass through you and not enter you. Visualize the words floating by you. FOCUS ONLY ON PEACE. Think of how much you desire peace. Think of how much this person cares for you. People we love don't intend to hurt us. Visualize peace. Remember a time when you felt the feeling of peace with this person. Remember the times when you laughed together or when this person stood by you in difficult times. Be compassionate. Be other-oriented. Realize this person may be carrying a heavy burden of pain and suffering that is invisible to you. Often, a stressful day at work is enough to cause unintentional negative comments. Let the comments slip past you, let them float over your head. Keep yourself grounded in the lightness, pleasantness and sweetness of peace.